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A friend called me in the morning, “I don’t want to get married, in fact I’m not interested at all but my parents are insisting too much and I’m also afraid what people and friends will think? I’m confused. I may get married under pressure but it is not my wish. There is no particular reason for not getting married. I’m simply not interested in producing children and spending rest of the life in fulfilling unwanted responsibilities. I feel all this very boring. I have got hundreds of ways to live life happily. I’m financially stable and healthy. I’m not a coward and I’m not running away from the life. But still I feel if I don’t get marry then my parents will become sad. Now what shall I do?”
I said, “Listen to the heart!”
I often get mails regarding this question. Some friends asked me whether I should get marry or not. Just listen to the heart, your heart is more important then my opinion. Go with your heart. If it says “yes” to get married then go for marriage, if it says “no” then don’t go. Then don’t bother about public opinion. Don’t live according to the rules of the society, create rules for yourself. You are right as long as you don’t harm anyone. If your parents get miserable just because you are not getting married then it is their problem, they are expecting something impossible from you. They gave birth to you, their duty is finished. Of course you must look after them, love them and take care of them but you should live according to your vision. Otherwise your whole life will become miserable.
In every area of life you should take counsel of your own heart. Before taking any decision you must ask your heart what is good for you. Only your heart knows what is right for you. Courage automatically comes when you live your hearts dream. Never settle for cheap alternatives and public opinions. Remember, this is a part of meditation.
Be an authentic man. Don’t hesitate. Live your own vision of truth. Be truthful to yourself. You are not obliged to fulfill others expectation.
Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. Being true to anyone else or anything else is not only impossible, but the mark of a fake messiah. ~ Richard Bach (Illusions)
One of my friend has another problem, his father wants him to join military. His father was in military and his grandfather also worked in military so his father wants to continue the chain. The boy is not interested to join military. He is not interested in killing people. And there are many ways to serve the nation. Even if you become a doctor, engineer, software developer you are serving the nation. You don’t need to go on the border. You can also become a farmer. If everyone join the military who will produce crops?
So live your own vision, live your own dream. You know all the answers you need. You are the master. Listen to the heart and believe in yourself. Everyone has vision, every heart speaks but most of the people prefer to live according to public opinions and try to fit in the society. The rules of the society are good for an average man.
Listen to the heart, your heart has a vision! ~MG
I remember I used to draw sketches on my notebooks and books when I was in school. My teachers always punished me for this habit but it was an uncontrollable urge to draw. I can not stop when I see a piece of paper. I just draw something or at least sign on the blank paper. My signature also looks like painting. When I opened bank account, bank manager said if you could not make the same signature you will not be able to withdraw money from your account and I draw the same signature beside the previous signature. So it is in blood.
Live your passion. Don’t compromise.
Ask your heart before you choose a profession. Do what you love even if you become a beggar. Money is not everything. Mostly immature people attract towards money, power and politics. If your hearts says to become a web designer then go for it, if your heart says to become a software developer then go for it, if you want to become a blogger then go for it, if you want to draw paintings then draw paintings. Live your life according to your own vision because it’s YOUR life and YOU are responsible for everything and you get this life only once. It is YOUR canvas.
The world is your exercise-book, the pages on which you do your sums.
It is not reality, although you can express reality there if you wish. You are also free to write nonsense, or lies, or to tear the pages. ~ Richard Bach (Illusions)