How to deal with angry person, full of hate and melodrama?
Don’t do anything, simply watch,
Your attention is their fuel, let them burn and finish in their own fire of anger, hatred and jelously. Anger is poison. Anger is not power but weakness.
Angry young man become superstar in movies only, in real world they may end in either jail or asylum. These people suffer from incurable diseases, lose their peace, happiness and spoile their relationships and career. They hurt only themselfs in trying to hurt others. This is enough punishment for them. You should not be afraid of their anger, actually they should feel afraid of their own uncontrollable behaviour.
You should just maintain your own integrity. You can control or change only yourself and not others. Anger is stupidity and immaturity.
If your wife is melodramatic and threatening you to commit sucied then you must sincerely help her to really commit sucied instead of accepting her reduculous demands. If you could show her that her melodrama doesn’t works, she will stop it or get into another imbalance that is frustration or depression. Depression is the culmination of anger.
Look at the dogs chasing the car, aren’t they behaving like stupid? And how they look when the car is passed?
If you don’t lose your integrity and remain calm then these people will feel exactly like this.
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I THINK U DON”T KNOW THE MEANING OF PASAYDAN THATS WAHY U R TREATING lIKE THIS WITH ANGER. Ur meditative person this is not expected from people like u. U R pouring fuel in fire by doing this kind of activity instead of helping him. Offcourse u don’t pamper his/her anger but u can observe him/her n find out the reason of that kind of behaviour find the things behind it. May be the roots of haterate is flourished @ ur end……Think OVER IT my brother….Please Help those poor people…ONLY LOVE is the solution not hate.
Anger and Love have no limits…
You said: ONLY LOVE is the solution not hate.
Yes, true, very true.
But in many cases shock treatment is very necessary, otherwise it goes on and on and on. Shock treatment is a therapy. Many times your meditativeness is considered as your weakness. Many times you cannot help to a angree person, specially a melodramatic person, at that time you can not preach him about nonviolance. You have to give him a good shock. It is a stratagical. You can help him by giving a good shock. Otherwise he will not stop. Actually you are talking about theory but I believe in praticals and what works. If what works goes against theory or what other so called masters said I don’t bother. Because this is what works for me.
You can help most of the people not by preaching but by giving a shock this may sound ugly but it is true. It is not love but fear keep people binding, yes it is ugly but true.
That’s why a Zen master keep a stick with him.
If you ask him about meditation he may blow you with his stick or throw you out of the window so that you may become atlest aware (if not enlightened!)
May be ur right MG…..but i am also very practical person and i know this is not applicable for 99% people…Don’t do blind love but if we r sincere nature help us in all way, no need to take ugly steps. pls work more on this project again for same person u will see diff results……..LOVE INCREASES LOVE… waiting for ur reply..
Dear Anonymous,
you are saying “I know this is not applicable for 99% people…” then the world is already sane!
Good news, no need of meditation!
And you are saying no need to take ugly steps, Good..!
Close the police and military department for just one day and see what happens.
And don’t be dependent on the nature, you are already destroying the nature. Nature will not help or support you. Now only you could help yourself.
Do you want to treat a rapist or a serial killar or a terrorist with love?
Hm?
Ok, go ahead! I don’t have any problem.
But I can not!
I may be wrong in your opinion but it’s ok.
And you also said don’t do blind love!
Dear friend love is NEVER blind!
Love is love.
You are also suggesting me: pls work more on this project again…
Thank you very much!
I’m already working but what about you?
Hm?
You know you can only hope for those 99% people, its not reality. Otherwise world will be absolutly sane. There will be no war, no need of court and police and military.
You said: LOVE INCREASES LOVE
Yes! I’m for love.
And sometimes you must have to take difficult steps out of love.
I recently came across your blog and have been reading along.
I thought I would leave my first comment. I don’t know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading.Nice blog,I will keep visiting this blog very often.
This is really true, Never pay attention to totally angry person because they will feed of that anger and then it will spread as wild fire.
When a person you care about is angry is only natural that you would try to understand why they are angry or showing that side of them, but as MG said “Your attention is their fuel” its true. Stand your ground and don’t take any s*** from them they’ll treat you with respect.
Once again excellent post, enjoyed reading it.
Thank you
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Refuse respectfully to take any shit from others.
It is more important to pay attention to yourself and remain alert when sombody is angree towards you.
If you are alert and calm, you can see the truth and there is spontenious right action which is beneficial to both.